Okay so I guess I should send out a little update, but to tell you the truth, I have not wanted to jinx our luck! The very first night after I wrote the bedtime post, Lyla has been an ANGEL going to bed (knock on wood)!! We started putting her down b/w 7 and 7:30 and we thought it must have been the bedtime. And then we had a late night and we were DREADING bedtime because we thought it would be business as usual and she was totally fine! Maybe it's because we cut potty treats. One thing we did do is the night I wrote the post she was kicking and crying and we didn't acknowledge her at all. I don't know. Anyway, thank you to EVERYONE for your awesome advice.
Changes we are making: earlier bedtime and cutting sweets. And not that we have changed this but we're really praising her for doing so good.